Yeah, I'm going there.
Proponents of so-called "gay marriage" often ask how someone else's family would be affected by the recognition of same-sex marriage. Can't heterosexual couples and their children continue to live their lives as they wish, unaffected by what others may be doing?
I want to answer this question.
It seems helpful to invoke John Donne at this juncture, who understood that "No man is an island" and that "Every man's death diminishes me," reminding me of Martin Luther King, Jr.'s statement that "What influences one directly influences all indirectly." Donne and Martin Luther King, Jr. understood something that in our highly individualistic society (now thirty years past the "Me Decade") seems to be becoming increasingly incomprehensible, namely, the idea that we all form part of a community and that we are linked to one another as human beings. The rugged individualism on which Americans have long prided themselves (and which has, for the record, helped to accomplish great things and to instill an admirable sense of self-reliance in our culture at various times in our history) has now all but turned into an egocentric me-ism, a worship of self, a creating of God in our own image.
Witness the ubiquitous i-pod, helping to cut off nearly a whole generation from meaningful interaction with their peers (and especially with their non-peers), the cell phones and texting devices that promise increased human interaction but provide only counterfeit communication in its place. Witness the homes in which individuals (the word "individuum" didn't even pop up in Latin until ca. 11th century A.D.), all attached to their private screens, sequester themselves in their own separate spheres, a phenomenon not only criticized in Pixar's recent "Wall-E" (I love Pixar: "The Incredibles" and "Ratatouille" have restored my faith in modern animation- and Ed Catmull, one of Pixar's founders, is an LDS returned missionary) but also in a great conversation between Dana Gioia, former Chairman of the National Endowment for the Arts and a personal hero (see, for example, his excellent Stanford speech here: http://news.stanford.edu/news/2007/june20/gradtrans-062007.html), and Jonathan Katz, CEO of the National Assembly of State Arts Agencies (see http://www.nea.gov/av/index_v.html).
So I think we have become, or are gradually becoming, in Walter Scott's words, wretches "concentred all in self," bowling alone, as it were, ordering tickets and dinner for one, strolling down lover's lane holding our own hand.
There is a sense of community that we have lost in all of this disconnected individualism, and it is precisely this lost sense of community that causes some to stand mystified at the suggestion that the actions of a few could, in fact, have a significant impact on others, even on those never met personally. Small wonder, then, that it is precisely the under-30 demographic-- the i-pod consumed, constantly texting, rarely voting, and often single folks who express their bafflement at the idea that one's actions may have an impact beyond one's own limited, personal spheres.
If this is all a bit abstract, let me provide some specific examples how gay "marriage" is already affecting heterosexual families:
(Now mind you, the following information is not coming from some crazy right-wing website- this is all from National Public Radio- see http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=91486340)
"When Gay Rights and Religious Liberties Clash
by Barbara Bradley Hagerty
NPR.org, June 13, 2008 · In recent years, some states have passed laws giving residents the right to same-sex unions in various forms. Gay couples may marry in Massachusetts and California. There are civil unions and domestic partnerships in Vermont, New Jersey, Connecticut, New Hampshire and Oregon. Other states give more limited rights.
Armed with those legal protections, same-sex couples are beginning to challenge policies of religious organizations that exclude them, claiming that a religious group's view that homosexual marriage is a sin cannot be used to violate their right to equal treatment. Now parochial schools, "parachurch" organizations such as Catholic Charities and businesses that refuse to serve gay couples are being sued — and so far, the religious groups are losing. Here are a few cases:
Adoption services: Catholic Charities in Massachusetts refused to place children with same-sex couples as required by Massachusetts law. After a legislative struggle — during which the Senate president said he could not support a bill "condoning discrimination" — Catholic Charities pulled out of the adoption business in 2006.
Housing: In New York City, Yeshiva University's Albert Einstein College of Medicine, a school under Orthodox Jewish auspices, banned same-sex couples from its married dormitory. New York does not recognize same-sex marriage, but in 2001, the state's highest court ruled Yeshiva violated New York City's ban on sexual orientation discrimination. Yeshiva now allows all couples in the dorm.
Parochial schools: California Lutheran High School, a Protestant school in Wildomar, holds that homosexuality is a sin. After the school suspended two girls who were allegedly in a lesbian relationship, the girls' parents sued, saying the school was violating the state's civil rights act protecting gay men and lesbians from discrimination. The case is before a state judge.
Medical services: A Christian gynecologist at North Coast Women's Care Medical Group in Vista, Calif., refused to give his patient in vitro fertilization treatment because she is in a lesbian relationship, and he claimed that doing so would violate his religious beliefs. (The doctor referred the patient to his partner, who agreed to do the treatment.) The woman sued under the state's civil rights act. The California Supreme Court heard oral arguments in May 2008, and legal experts believe that the woman's right to medical treatment will trump the doctor's religious beliefs. One justice suggested that the doctors take up a different line of business.
Psychological services: A mental health counselor at North Mississippi Health Services refused therapy for a woman who wanted help in improving her lesbian relationship. The counselor said doing so would violate her religious beliefs. The counselor was fired. In March 2001, the United States Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit sided with the employer, ruling that the employee's religious beliefs could not be accommodated without causing undue hardship to the company.
Civil servants: A clerk in Vermont refused to perform a civil union ceremony after the state legalized them. In 2001, in a decision that side-stepped the religious liberties issue, the Vermont Supreme Court ruled that he did not need to perform the ceremony because there were other civil servants who would. However, the court did indicate that religious beliefs do not allow employees to discriminate against same-sex couples.
Adoption services: A same-sex couple in California applied to Adoption Profiles, an Internet service in Arizona that matches adoptive parents with newborns. The couple's application was denied based on the religious beliefs of the company's owners. The couple sued in federal district court in San Francisco. The two sides settled after the adoption company said it will no longer do business in California.
Wedding services: A same sex couple in Albuquerque asked a photographer, Elaine Huguenin, to shoot their commitment ceremony. The photographer declined, saying her Christian beliefs prevented her from sanctioning same-sex unions. The couple sued, and the New Mexico Human Rights Commission found the photographer guilty of discrimination. It ordered her to pay the lesbian couple's legal fees ($6,600). The photographer is appealing.
Wedding facilities: Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association of New Jersey, a Methodist organization, refused to rent its boardwalk pavilion to a lesbian couple for their civil union ceremony. The couple filed a complaint with the New Jersey Division on Civil Rights. The division ruled that the boardwalk property was open for public use, therefore the Methodist group could not discriminate against gay couples using it. In the interim, the state's Department of Environmental Protection revoked a portion of the association's tax benefits. The case is ongoing.
Youth groups: The city of Berkeley, Calif., requested that the Sea Scouts (affiliated with the Boy Scouts) formally agree to not discriminate against gay men in exchange for free use of berths in the city's marina. The Sea Scouts sued, claiming this violated their beliefs and First Amendment right to the freedom to associate with other like-minded people. In 2006, the California Supreme Court ruled against the youth group. In San Diego, the Boy Scouts lost access to the city-owned aquatic center for the same reason. While these cases do not directly involve same-sex unions, they presage future conflicts about whether religiously oriented or parachurch organizations may prohibit, for example, gay couples from teaching at summer camp. In June 2008, the federal Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals asked the California Supreme Court to review the Boy Scouts' leases. Meanwhile, the mayor's office in Philadelphia revoked the Boy Scouts' $1-a-year lease for a city building."
Now, who goes after Boy Scouts?
When you throw a stone into the water, there is a ripple effect. Changing the definition of marriage will also have a ripple effect, as it is already beginning to have. And we're only a few years into same-sex unions- I wonder what the effects might be ten or twenty years from now.
Iowa, and every other state that hasn't already done so, needs to pass a state constitutional amendment defining marriage as between a man and a woman. The United States likewise needs to pass a Federal Marriage Amendment doing the same. There are fundamental, First-Amendment freedoms at stake.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Selfishness
I hate the letter "I," that lonely, spear-like pronoun.
I love these lines from Walter Scott:
High though his titles, proud his name,
Boundless his wealth as wish can claim;
Despite those titles, power, and pelf,
The wretch, concentred all in self,
Living, shall forfeit fair renown,
And, doubly dying, shall go down
To the vile dust from whence he sprung,
Unwept, unhonor'd, and unsung.
Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, "Selfishness is really self-destruction in slow motion," and President Hinckely said that "He who lives only unto himself withers and dies, while he who forgets himself in the service of others grows and blossoms in this life and in eternity."
I love these lines from Walter Scott:
High though his titles, proud his name,
Boundless his wealth as wish can claim;
Despite those titles, power, and pelf,
The wretch, concentred all in self,
Living, shall forfeit fair renown,
And, doubly dying, shall go down
To the vile dust from whence he sprung,
Unwept, unhonor'd, and unsung.
Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, "Selfishness is really self-destruction in slow motion," and President Hinckely said that "He who lives only unto himself withers and dies, while he who forgets himself in the service of others grows and blossoms in this life and in eternity."
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
A Kierkegaardian Reading of March Madness
Between my junior and senior years of high school, I took an introductory philosophy course at Georgetown. The course description stated that we would read a certain book by Soren Kierkegaard, and for the life of me I can't remember the title of it. So I read the book early that summer, to get a "headstart" on the course. (Turned out that we didn't end up reading it at all- a classic case of the all-too-frequent divorce between course description promises and the harsh reality of actual classroom experience).
I wish now that I could recall the name of the book, so that I could quote from it directly, but I will have to rely on my fallible memory instead. I remember that the writer of the preface said that no one would object more to having a preface to his works than Soren Kierkegaard. Kierkegaard believed that people should define their own experiences, come up with their own interpretations of what they read, and not have someone else impose their preface, their interpretation, on anyone else.
All this has made me think of March Madness, and how the commentaries made by the sportscasters seem like an important part of each game. What would the Carolina-Duke rivalry be without the wisdom and enthusiasm of Dick Vitale? And yet, is my interpretation of the game being imposed on me by someone else? By listening to the analysis and commentaries of sportscasters, am I letting go, in some small way, of my liberty to interpret my own experience and to frame my own basketball narrative?
Would Kierkegaard tell me to turn the sound off, watch the game, and form my own analysis of the events before me?
Sometimes I wonder.
I wish now that I could recall the name of the book, so that I could quote from it directly, but I will have to rely on my fallible memory instead. I remember that the writer of the preface said that no one would object more to having a preface to his works than Soren Kierkegaard. Kierkegaard believed that people should define their own experiences, come up with their own interpretations of what they read, and not have someone else impose their preface, their interpretation, on anyone else.
All this has made me think of March Madness, and how the commentaries made by the sportscasters seem like an important part of each game. What would the Carolina-Duke rivalry be without the wisdom and enthusiasm of Dick Vitale? And yet, is my interpretation of the game being imposed on me by someone else? By listening to the analysis and commentaries of sportscasters, am I letting go, in some small way, of my liberty to interpret my own experience and to frame my own basketball narrative?
Would Kierkegaard tell me to turn the sound off, watch the game, and form my own analysis of the events before me?
Sometimes I wonder.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Raising Kane
Colonel Thomas L. Kane (1822-1883) was always a hero of the underdog. As a Pennsylvania attorney, he frequently took up the causes of the outcast and the oppressed. He was a staunch abolitionist, even preferring to go to jail rather than to comply with the Fugitive Slave Act (and the even more stringent provisions of the Compromise of 1850) requiring him to be more active in returning escaped slaves to their Southern masters. The Supreme Court, fortunately, decided that his incarceration was unconstitutional, and he was set free.
His taking up for the underdog eventually led to his great and continual intercession on behalf of the Latter-day Saints, and time and time again he negotiated with government leaders on their behalf. The gratitude of the Saints has expressed itself in the establishment of Kane County, UT, the naming of the Kanesville Tabernacle in Council Bluffs, IA (where on Dec. 27, 1847, Brigham Young was sustained as the second president of the Church), and numerous articles and other publications recounting his many great acts of friendship towards the Saints. As Brigham Young once wrote Kane in a letter dated April 16, 1871, "Those who know you cherish for you the fondest recollection, while with all, your name is held in honorable remembrance" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_L._Kane).
Kane also spoke French, publishing several articles in that language while in Paris, and fought in the Battle of Gettysburg (where he was promoted to major general for his bravery in battle). He was, in short, a hero.
But it is his wife, Elizabeth, that I have been reading about recently and I find her to be an equally intriguing figure. On a visit with her husband and two children to Utah, she commented on the idea (which she disdained) that theological discussions belong properly to the male domain, and that women should not trouble themselves too much with doctrinal matters. The existence of this notion she traces to a (faulty, in my opinion) reading of the Apostle Paul. On the question of whether a woman should "refer all theological puzzles to her own husband at home" she writes, "Ah, St. Paul, little didst thou foresee how busy our husbands would be all day in Wall Street, how tired and cross every evening at home! Fancy our asking THEM to extract roots of doctrine for us!" (TWELVE MORMON HOMES VISITED, 1874).
Wonderful comment from Elizabeth Kane.
President Kimball taught: "We want our homes blessed with sister scriptorians." Elder Maxwell said that for too long in the church, men have been the theologians while the women have been the Christians (see http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=c86f44584a204110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1#footnote7). It seems to me that women could more confidently study and expound doctrine while we men could sometimes stop expounding so much and actually start living more fully the Christianity of the doctrines that we are so happy to discuss.
His taking up for the underdog eventually led to his great and continual intercession on behalf of the Latter-day Saints, and time and time again he negotiated with government leaders on their behalf. The gratitude of the Saints has expressed itself in the establishment of Kane County, UT, the naming of the Kanesville Tabernacle in Council Bluffs, IA (where on Dec. 27, 1847, Brigham Young was sustained as the second president of the Church), and numerous articles and other publications recounting his many great acts of friendship towards the Saints. As Brigham Young once wrote Kane in a letter dated April 16, 1871, "Those who know you cherish for you the fondest recollection, while with all, your name is held in honorable remembrance" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_L._Kane).
Kane also spoke French, publishing several articles in that language while in Paris, and fought in the Battle of Gettysburg (where he was promoted to major general for his bravery in battle). He was, in short, a hero.
But it is his wife, Elizabeth, that I have been reading about recently and I find her to be an equally intriguing figure. On a visit with her husband and two children to Utah, she commented on the idea (which she disdained) that theological discussions belong properly to the male domain, and that women should not trouble themselves too much with doctrinal matters. The existence of this notion she traces to a (faulty, in my opinion) reading of the Apostle Paul. On the question of whether a woman should "refer all theological puzzles to her own husband at home" she writes, "Ah, St. Paul, little didst thou foresee how busy our husbands would be all day in Wall Street, how tired and cross every evening at home! Fancy our asking THEM to extract roots of doctrine for us!" (TWELVE MORMON HOMES VISITED, 1874).
Wonderful comment from Elizabeth Kane.
President Kimball taught: "We want our homes blessed with sister scriptorians." Elder Maxwell said that for too long in the church, men have been the theologians while the women have been the Christians (see http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=c86f44584a204110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1#footnote7). It seems to me that women could more confidently study and expound doctrine while we men could sometimes stop expounding so much and actually start living more fully the Christianity of the doctrines that we are so happy to discuss.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Sameness
Madeleine L'Engle is wonderful, and not just because she received an honorary doctorate from BYU in 1999 and gave a great commencement address there (see http://www.byub.org/findatalk/search.asp?all=true"). She is also a solid writer for children (intertext with Shakespeare, Goethe, the Bible!) in a time when the stultifying and the vapid have cornered too much of the children's literature market. As President Monson said recently, "In our age of mass culture, when so much that we encounter is abridged, adapted, adulterated, shredded, and boiled down, it is mind-easing and mind-inspiring to sit down privately with a congenial book." I consider Madeleine L'Engle's A WRINKLE IN TIME to be just such a "congenial" book.
There is a wonderful scene in A WRINKLE IN TIME where, on the planet Camazotz, the characters encounter an unusual town:
"Below them the town was laid out in harsh angular patterns. The houses in the outskirts were all exactly alike, small square boxes painted gray. Each had a small, rectangular plot of lawn in front, with a straight line of dull-looking flowers edging the path to the door. Meg had a feeling that if she could count the flowers there would be exactly the same number for each house. In front of all the houses children were playing. Some were skipping rope, some were bouncing balls. Meg felt vaguely that something was wrong with their play... 'Look!' Charles Wallace said suddenly. 'They're skipping and bouncing in rhythm. Everyone's doing it at exactly the same moment...'
Then the doors of all the houses opened simultaneously, and out came women like a row of paper dolls. The print of their dresses was different, but they all gave the appearance of being the same. Each woman stood on the steps of her house. Each clapped. Each child with the ball caught the ball. Each child with the skipping rope folded the rope. Each child turned and walked into the house. The doors clicked shut behind them" (pp. 103-04).
When one of the children breaks rhythm by dropping his ball, the visitors to Camazotz try to return it to him. They knock on his door, but his mother protests:
"The woman pushed the ball away. 'Oh, no! The children in our section
never drop balls! They're all perfectly trained. We haven't had an Aberration for three years'" (p. 106).
There is a wonderful criticism of sameness in this scene, one with which Brother Brigham might perhaps have agreed: "There is too much sameness in this community. . . I am not a stereotyped Latter-day-saint and do not believe in the doctrine. . . away with stereotyped Mormons!" (http://www.dialoguejournal.com/excerpts/36-2a.asp)
It is this form of sameness that often finds itself under fire in much of the criticism of suburbia that has long seemed fashionable, particularly of late. From recent New York Times articles and editorials extolling the "authenticity" of city or even rural life, to architectural history books decrying the "artificial" nature of suburban sprawl and its accompanying cookie-cutter lifestyles, to contemporary films like "Revolutionary Road" that emphasize the supposedly vacuous and unfulfilling lifestyle to which suburbia condemns its prisoners, it is clear that the 'burbs have gotten their share of negative publicity. The perceived lack of architectural variety among the monolithic rows of "bedroom communities" becomes, for some, symbolic of the homogeneity of the inhabitants, whose lives thus reflect the monotony and lack of individualism faced and even sought out by these native suburbanites, these worshippers of the temples of kitsch and conformity.
While I find some of these evaluations of suburbia somewhat unfair and even occasionally elitist and self-congratulatory, I do find something intriguing about this criticism of sameness that finds its way into such anti-suburban discourse. Sameness can stifle creativity and individuality, force individuals into roles which they neither wish for nor even are capable of filling. It can create suspicion and xenophobia towards all but the most limited of homogeneous circles. I have met people who were suspicious about folks in the next county over. Is this not xenophobia in the extreme?
I believe that our personal righteousness will lead us to greater individuality; as Elder Neal A. Maxwell (I miss him!) once said, "Of course, our individuality is actually enhanced by submissiveness and by righteousness. It is sin that grinds us down to sameness-- to a monotonous, single plane" (see Educating Zion, p. 202).
I am also reminded of a key opening passage in one of my favorite novels, Hermann Hesse's UNTERM RAD. Describing Joseph Giebenrath, Hesse writes:
"Er haette mit jedem beliebigen Nachbarn Namen und Wohnung vertauschen koennen, ohne dass irgend etwas anders geworden waere. Auch das Tiefste seiner Seele, das schlummerlose Misstrauen gegen jede ueberlegene Kraft und Persoenlichkeit und die instinktive aus Neid erwachsene Feindseligkeit gegen alles Unalltaegliche, Freiere, Feinere, Geistige teilte er mit saemtlichen uebrigen Hausvaetern der Stadt" (pp. 1-2)
(I apologize for the lack of umlauts- an ugly sight indeed. I'm still new and in the process of learning the ropes around here).
I am also reminded of those all-too-often repeated American evaluative phrases: "That was... different" or "She's definitely... different"-- as though variation from the norm were somehow unnecessarily transgressive and therefore undesirable. It is usually to avoid using other negative words that "different" is thus employed- after all, isn't it nicer to say "different" than incompetent, boring, stupid, annoying, etc? Yet by using "different," we thus inevitably inscribe the word's negative meaning, situating it firmly on the derogatory end of the lexical spectrum. Variation becomes transgression and invites ostracism and rejection. Those who seek individuality quickly find themselves despised and rejected of men.
It is often jealousy that seeks to impose rigid conformity. W.E.B. Dubois perceptively described this phenomenon when he stated, citing Booker T. Washington, that "we are like crabs in a barrel, that none would allow the other to climb over, but on any such attempt all would combine to pull back into the barrel the one crab who would make the effort to climb out" (see http://74.125.95.132/search?q=cache:i86bVA89DCkJ:xroads.virginia.edu/~MA03/faturoti2/Ambrose/relg280-washington%2520dubois%2520garvey.doc+%22w.e.b.+dubois%22+and+%22crabs%22&cd=11&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us).
I began this (lenghty) post with a children's book, and now I end with one, J.K. Rowling's HARRY POTTER AND THE SORCERER'S STONE. While Yale critic Harold Bloom excoriated the book in his (in)famous Wall Street Journal op-ed (see http://wrt-brooke.syr.edu/courses/205.03/bloom.html) and claimed that reading Harry Potter was in fact not reading at all but "eyes simply scan[ning] the page," there is at least one aspect of Rowling's description of the Dursleys that I find appealing, particularly in this context of writers questioning sameness and conformity. The very opening lines of the book set the tone for what will become a subtle critique of the stifling, British "middle class morality" that English writers like George Bernard Shaw and others have long derided in their works:
"Mr. and Mrs. Dursley, of number four, Privet Drive, were proud to say that they were perfectly normal, thank you very much. They were the last people you'd expect to be involved in anything strange or mysterious, because they just didn't hold with such nonsense" (p. 1).
Now, I'm all for morality, middle class or otherwise, but the term "middle class morality" carries with it sometimes connotations of contented, suburban conformity, an "All is well" mentality that is dangerous not only for its immediate and long-term spiritual ramifications (see 2 Nephi on that), but also for the rigid regimentation of behavioral codes it often imposes on others. There is no room for difference with such codes in place. Thus, the Dursleys' harsh treatment of Harry is not contempt for the boy himself per se; it is, rather, contempt for the very idea of difference, contempt for individuality, for non-conformism. The Dursleys are not so much of afraid of Harry's mysterious powers as they are of what their friends and neighbors, many of whom live in neatly-arrayed rows of nearly identical houses very similar to their own(the film makes this even clearer, depicting, as it does, the almost stereotypically middle-class, non-descript English suburban neighborhood), will think of them if they ever find out about their "freak" (a word that signifies the ultimate otherization) of a nephew. Petunia Dursley gives voice to some of this conformist anxiety in her speech before Hagrid when she reveals that she knew all along that Harry has magic powers:
"Knew! Of course we knew! How could you not be [a wizard], my dratted sister being what she was... I was the only one who saw her for what she was-- a freak! But for my mother and father, oh no, it was Lily this and Lily that, they were proud of having a witch in the family...
Then she met that Potter at school and they left and got married and had you, and of course I knew you'd be just the same, just as strange, just as-- as--abnormal-- and then, if you please, she went and got herself blown up and we got landed with you!"
As Elder Eric B. Shumway (a personal hero) has pointed out, "We [can] become victims of a self-satisfied, narrow provincialism that can snuff out curiosity and harden our opinions into prejudices. There is a provocative Tongan saying that warns against the dangers of a "small fish" perspective. 'The lokua [a tiny reef fish] thinks his tidal pool is the vast ocean'" (http://home.byu.net/few2/pdf/BYUHawaii.pdf)
Like the lokua fish, the Dursleys have a hard time seeing beyond their own immediate, limited circle, and they guard fiercely the parameters and contours of the narrow sphere they have drawn up for themselves and those around them. Yet there is a whole world out there, with many different kinds of people doing many different kinds of things.
There is no need for us to impose sameness on one another.
There is a wonderful scene in A WRINKLE IN TIME where, on the planet Camazotz, the characters encounter an unusual town:
"Below them the town was laid out in harsh angular patterns. The houses in the outskirts were all exactly alike, small square boxes painted gray. Each had a small, rectangular plot of lawn in front, with a straight line of dull-looking flowers edging the path to the door. Meg had a feeling that if she could count the flowers there would be exactly the same number for each house. In front of all the houses children were playing. Some were skipping rope, some were bouncing balls. Meg felt vaguely that something was wrong with their play... 'Look!' Charles Wallace said suddenly. 'They're skipping and bouncing in rhythm. Everyone's doing it at exactly the same moment...'
Then the doors of all the houses opened simultaneously, and out came women like a row of paper dolls. The print of their dresses was different, but they all gave the appearance of being the same. Each woman stood on the steps of her house. Each clapped. Each child with the ball caught the ball. Each child with the skipping rope folded the rope. Each child turned and walked into the house. The doors clicked shut behind them" (pp. 103-04).
When one of the children breaks rhythm by dropping his ball, the visitors to Camazotz try to return it to him. They knock on his door, but his mother protests:
"The woman pushed the ball away. 'Oh, no! The children in our section
never drop balls! They're all perfectly trained. We haven't had an Aberration for three years'" (p. 106).
There is a wonderful criticism of sameness in this scene, one with which Brother Brigham might perhaps have agreed: "There is too much sameness in this community. . . I am not a stereotyped Latter-day-saint and do not believe in the doctrine. . . away with stereotyped Mormons!" (http://www.dialoguejournal.com/excerpts/36-2a.asp)
It is this form of sameness that often finds itself under fire in much of the criticism of suburbia that has long seemed fashionable, particularly of late. From recent New York Times articles and editorials extolling the "authenticity" of city or even rural life, to architectural history books decrying the "artificial" nature of suburban sprawl and its accompanying cookie-cutter lifestyles, to contemporary films like "Revolutionary Road" that emphasize the supposedly vacuous and unfulfilling lifestyle to which suburbia condemns its prisoners, it is clear that the 'burbs have gotten their share of negative publicity. The perceived lack of architectural variety among the monolithic rows of "bedroom communities" becomes, for some, symbolic of the homogeneity of the inhabitants, whose lives thus reflect the monotony and lack of individualism faced and even sought out by these native suburbanites, these worshippers of the temples of kitsch and conformity.
While I find some of these evaluations of suburbia somewhat unfair and even occasionally elitist and self-congratulatory, I do find something intriguing about this criticism of sameness that finds its way into such anti-suburban discourse. Sameness can stifle creativity and individuality, force individuals into roles which they neither wish for nor even are capable of filling. It can create suspicion and xenophobia towards all but the most limited of homogeneous circles. I have met people who were suspicious about folks in the next county over. Is this not xenophobia in the extreme?
I believe that our personal righteousness will lead us to greater individuality; as Elder Neal A. Maxwell (I miss him!) once said, "Of course, our individuality is actually enhanced by submissiveness and by righteousness. It is sin that grinds us down to sameness-- to a monotonous, single plane" (see Educating Zion, p. 202).
I am also reminded of a key opening passage in one of my favorite novels, Hermann Hesse's UNTERM RAD. Describing Joseph Giebenrath, Hesse writes:
"Er haette mit jedem beliebigen Nachbarn Namen und Wohnung vertauschen koennen, ohne dass irgend etwas anders geworden waere. Auch das Tiefste seiner Seele, das schlummerlose Misstrauen gegen jede ueberlegene Kraft und Persoenlichkeit und die instinktive aus Neid erwachsene Feindseligkeit gegen alles Unalltaegliche, Freiere, Feinere, Geistige teilte er mit saemtlichen uebrigen Hausvaetern der Stadt" (pp. 1-2)
(I apologize for the lack of umlauts- an ugly sight indeed. I'm still new and in the process of learning the ropes around here).
I am also reminded of those all-too-often repeated American evaluative phrases: "That was... different" or "She's definitely... different"-- as though variation from the norm were somehow unnecessarily transgressive and therefore undesirable. It is usually to avoid using other negative words that "different" is thus employed- after all, isn't it nicer to say "different" than incompetent, boring, stupid, annoying, etc? Yet by using "different," we thus inevitably inscribe the word's negative meaning, situating it firmly on the derogatory end of the lexical spectrum. Variation becomes transgression and invites ostracism and rejection. Those who seek individuality quickly find themselves despised and rejected of men.
It is often jealousy that seeks to impose rigid conformity. W.E.B. Dubois perceptively described this phenomenon when he stated, citing Booker T. Washington, that "we are like crabs in a barrel, that none would allow the other to climb over, but on any such attempt all would combine to pull back into the barrel the one crab who would make the effort to climb out" (see http://74.125.95.132/search?q=cache:i86bVA89DCkJ:xroads.virginia.edu/~MA03/faturoti2/Ambrose/relg280-washington%2520dubois%2520garvey.doc+%22w.e.b.+dubois%22+and+%22crabs%22&cd=11&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us).
I began this (lenghty) post with a children's book, and now I end with one, J.K. Rowling's HARRY POTTER AND THE SORCERER'S STONE. While Yale critic Harold Bloom excoriated the book in his (in)famous Wall Street Journal op-ed (see http://wrt-brooke.syr.edu/courses/205.03/bloom.html) and claimed that reading Harry Potter was in fact not reading at all but "eyes simply scan[ning] the page," there is at least one aspect of Rowling's description of the Dursleys that I find appealing, particularly in this context of writers questioning sameness and conformity. The very opening lines of the book set the tone for what will become a subtle critique of the stifling, British "middle class morality" that English writers like George Bernard Shaw and others have long derided in their works:
"Mr. and Mrs. Dursley, of number four, Privet Drive, were proud to say that they were perfectly normal, thank you very much. They were the last people you'd expect to be involved in anything strange or mysterious, because they just didn't hold with such nonsense" (p. 1).
Now, I'm all for morality, middle class or otherwise, but the term "middle class morality" carries with it sometimes connotations of contented, suburban conformity, an "All is well" mentality that is dangerous not only for its immediate and long-term spiritual ramifications (see 2 Nephi on that), but also for the rigid regimentation of behavioral codes it often imposes on others. There is no room for difference with such codes in place. Thus, the Dursleys' harsh treatment of Harry is not contempt for the boy himself per se; it is, rather, contempt for the very idea of difference, contempt for individuality, for non-conformism. The Dursleys are not so much of afraid of Harry's mysterious powers as they are of what their friends and neighbors, many of whom live in neatly-arrayed rows of nearly identical houses very similar to their own(the film makes this even clearer, depicting, as it does, the almost stereotypically middle-class, non-descript English suburban neighborhood), will think of them if they ever find out about their "freak" (a word that signifies the ultimate otherization) of a nephew. Petunia Dursley gives voice to some of this conformist anxiety in her speech before Hagrid when she reveals that she knew all along that Harry has magic powers:
"Knew! Of course we knew! How could you not be [a wizard], my dratted sister being what she was... I was the only one who saw her for what she was-- a freak! But for my mother and father, oh no, it was Lily this and Lily that, they were proud of having a witch in the family...
Then she met that Potter at school and they left and got married and had you, and of course I knew you'd be just the same, just as strange, just as-- as--abnormal-- and then, if you please, she went and got herself blown up and we got landed with you!"
As Elder Eric B. Shumway (a personal hero) has pointed out, "We [can] become victims of a self-satisfied, narrow provincialism that can snuff out curiosity and harden our opinions into prejudices. There is a provocative Tongan saying that warns against the dangers of a "small fish" perspective. 'The lokua [a tiny reef fish] thinks his tidal pool is the vast ocean'" (http://home.byu.net/few2/pdf/BYUHawaii.pdf)
Like the lokua fish, the Dursleys have a hard time seeing beyond their own immediate, limited circle, and they guard fiercely the parameters and contours of the narrow sphere they have drawn up for themselves and those around them. Yet there is a whole world out there, with many different kinds of people doing many different kinds of things.
There is no need for us to impose sameness on one another.
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